HOW I DEAL WITH THE CRITICISM OF NOT HAVING A "REAL JOB"

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So I’ve been noticing lately more often than not, people have been talking to me as if my job isn’t a quote unquote “real job” as if running my own online training business, in person one on one training business, writing for my blog, keeping up with my businesses social media and teaching upwards of 8 group classes a week is easy peasy. (HA thats a good one) They say things like “well what have you done all day” or “you’re going to be home right you can do this and this.” My usual response is something along the line of – let me stop you right there, I’m home because I have 20+ clients to check in on, new online plans to make, online and in person consultations and then I most likely have an actual client or two or three or five somewhere in the mix of all this so yes I’m home a lot but home feels a lot like work to me.

Don’t get me wrong, working from home is amazing and being your own boss is even more amazing, I will literally never go back to working for someone else BUT I would be lying to you if I told you that people always take you seriously when you say that you work from home. For some reason a lot of people have this misconception that if you aren’t working a 9-5 you aren’t working at all (I’m sorry what?) that could not be further from the truth. In all seriousness working for yourself from home is a lot more challenging than any old boring 9-5, anyone can do what they’re told for 8 hours thats a piece of cake. The real test is when you have no one to answer to but yourself and have to do things like; discipline yourself, stay focused, come up with your own ideas, develop your own business, market yourself, keep track of sales, clients, etc. It’s actually a HUGE amount of work – but I do understand how people on the outside can think that it’s all sunshine and rainbows all the time.

It think that how hard I actually work gets a little bit overlooked when people think about the fact that – I don’t have to set an alarm unless I have an early client or class, I don’t have to take orders or direction from anyone, I can work in my pyjamas if I really want (I don’t usually though), I get to take breaks when I want, I don’t have to pack my meals, I get to make time for my goals and my workouts during the day and I get to do what I love during all of this! Okay I’d be a little jealous too if I was on the outside looking in, I have to admit.

At first when people would criticize my chosen career and lifestyle I would get pretty upset, I didn’t understand why no one was taking me seriously or why my job seemed like any less of a job than everyone else’s but I’ve learned to not take offence as much to the opinions of others. I honestly can’t be bothered to care about what people think of my life anymore, in my opinion the only things that should matter to you are if you feel fulfilled, if you are happy, if you wake up with purpose and if you are passionate. Oh and if you’re making a sustainable living but that comes dead last for me honestly, if you have everything else in check then the income will follow (trust me).

The biggest thing that this journey has taught me so far is that people do not welcome things they aren’t used to as openly as they welcome the every day norm and that is totally okay with me. I have no problem educating people on how hard we entrepreneurs actually work or explaining what I do in a day (over and over and over) I want the people who have doubts to understand that this is no walk in the park and if that means listening to criticism more often than not and then shutting it down by explaining what I do then so be it! For some people the Monday to Friday 9-5 grind is perfectly acceptable and enjoyable and that is awesome, but that is not the lifestyle I would be happy in,  I want so much more than that and I think that that is pretty awesome too.

I’ve come a long way in the last couple of months, I have a lot more self confidence and a lot more confidence in my business because it is honestly thriving so I know how to deal with the hate. I can laugh the comments off and I can laugh with people when I explain that I do a lot more than just sit on my laptop in my pyjamas all day. This is a crazy adventure and I would never have it any other way, I’ll take every critique that the world has to throw at me if it means I get to continue living out my dreamsand helping people in the process.

Your journey is just that – YOURS – do not let anyone’s judgement or lack of understanding cloud that for you. You have the right to whatever you want, we all do.

xo -LU